I don't disagree with what you're saying. I think we're on the same side. It does sound like the coach was ready to make an offer. After all, I can't imagine a coach asking a player if they thought they needed to go on their other visits if the next step wasn't to make an offer. Would a coach really ask that and then, if the player said "No, I don't think I need to go on my other visits," turn around and say "Oh, well you really should visit those other schools"?Relax77 wrote: ↑Tue Oct 10, 2023 2:51 pmWhile you may be right on what happened, doesn’t make the process right? It should be a two way street. So the coach can “have his/her cake and eat it too”, but a kid isn’t allowed to do the same. A coach ( and we know it is most if not all coaches) can leave a kid in limbo and ghost them after calling them or say right now you are our number 3 middie and we have an offer out, but a kid shouldn’t be allowed to do the same. Once again, if the coach was going to make an offer, just make the offer. What does it matter if sue is looking at other schools, they are looking at other players? It’s that simple. Make the offer, Give a time line and move on. What that kid did is no different than what the coaches do. It just seems like the kids coach/father got mad when the team moved on.ultravisitor wrote: ↑Tue Oct 10, 2023 2:17 pmHere's the problem: sounds like you want to have your cake and eat it, too. How fair is it to the coaches and other potential recruits for you to expect the coach to hold anything for you while you're going and exploring other options? If you're telling the coach that you're going to explore other options, then you're basically telling them that they're not much of a high priority for you. You're telling them that you're going to keep looking to see if there's something better than them.
If one side expresses interest and the other wants to continue shopping around, then I think it's only fair for the other side to continue shopping around, as well.