51percentcorn wrote: ↑Tue Apr 07, 2020 9:35 am
flalax22 wrote: ↑Tue Apr 07, 2020 9:23 am
If what is being speculated is true this goes WAY beyond sideline antics, staff construction/responsibilities and it is not limited to Rapine. Rapine is getting the attention because he left. If an abused woman leaves her husband you don’t talk about the pressure the abuser is under or how incompetent his employees are.
Fair enough BUT again - and of course this is my opinion - Johns Hopkins current administration has ZERO appetite for student athlete abuse - I think there is documented evidence (in the form of the suspensions and the VERY near termination of the season in 2013) of that. SO IF there was documentable evidence of consistent verbal abuse and it was brought to Baker/Daniels - Petro would be gone. I brought up the other things because I do not think that evidence exists - because he is still around - and I have been told the player bears at least an equal share in the deterioration of the relationship. The key word in all this is speculation.
i have no idea what the story is with Rapine and DP is very much of the old school. Whatever happened he was essentially a 3 year starter on the team and he left before his senior year. How often does that happen? Almost never. It happens alot more with freshman - they make the decision it isn't worth it to deal with the issues - think Ruhl (again no idea why he left but he left after his freshman year and was playing a lot). For a senior to leave when you can see the light at the end of the tunnel is not a good look. Not matter what the issue is.
But, any coach worth their salt will need to loudly criticize (i'll use yelling from here out) a player at different points of a player's career. There is a difference between yelling than verbal abuse. But, for some kids yelling will be a good motivation for others the yelling needs to be more selective, nuanced and only done in certain select settings.
I've coached all my kids in some level of sports at the youth level. I've yelled at all of my teams at some point for doing something boneheaded or trying to get their attention. This is very different than screaming. Screaming is just hearing your self and is what I consider verbal abuse. Yelling has instruction in it and I'll fully admit there is a fine line or gray area between the two.
I'm probably hardest on my own kids but I know that my middle son can take more yelling than my daughter or younger son. My middle son gets why I'm yelling at him. It pushes his competitiveness to do better. My daughter and younger son would both crumple if did what I do to my middle son. They don't look at it that way. They need another way to push their competitiveness. For my younger son, it isn't surprising to push him to be more like his brother. It is a coaches job to figure out what is the best way to motivate their players.